Ink SpillRaising confidence.
Among people, there are some who seem naturally confident and others who shy away.
So it makes you wonder if that is just who they are? is that something embedded into their genes, self, or psyche? or was it how they were nurtured or raised? and if you don’t have much of it, is it something that you can gain?
Imagine you’re the most beautiful person alive but no one ever told you you were beautiful, would you still be confident in your appearance? would you yourself think you’re beautiful? imagine if you actually thought the lack of complements meant that you’re ugly. How would you be confident in your looks if there are no clear signs that tells you that you should?
So in that sense, is confidence just the culmination of the opinions of others? as in if the people thought you’re smart, you’ll feel confidence in your intelligence but if the people thought you were dumb, you’ll have low self-esteem about your capabilities regardless of how smart you actually are?
Can you gain confidence without other people? If you’ve trained by yourself to shoot an arrow until you can always hit the target, won’t you have gained confidence in that you’re great at archery?
Confidence seems to be measured by having proof of capability or past experiences.
If you were bullied and abused as a child then you have proof that you are to be dominated therefore you’ll lack confidence to be dominant.
If you got good grades along your years in school then you have proof that you are able to learn and pass test therefore you’re confident in your intelligence.
If you were given responsibilities and you carried them well at a young age then you have proof that you can manage tasks and situations therefore you’ll be confident in being dependent on.
So to raise your confidence in something, you need repeated proof that you’re capable in that specific area and once you’ve accumulated enough proof, you’ll gain the confidence you’ll need.